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We offer confidential, culturally informed one-to-one support to help victims feel safe, understood, empowered.
We deliver specialist training to professionals, strengthening awareness and responses to honour-based abuse.
We provide accessible online guidance, resources, and remote support for anyone needing safe, discreet help.
At True Honour, we are driven by a single, powerful mission: to stop abuse and save lives. We offer crucial support to victims of honour-based violence (HBV), forced marriage, and female genital mutilation (FGM).
Our approach is rooted in personal experience, providing a unique perspective that fosters real change. Through comprehensive training, tireless advocacy, and direct support, we empower survivors, influence policies, and build safer communities. Join us in breaking the silence, restoring dignity, and creating a world where no one has to suffer in the name of ‘honour.’
True Honour was created in memory of Surjit Kaur Athwal, whose life was tragically taken in 1998 in a so-called ‘honour killing’. Surjit was a young mother full of hope, strength, and potential, a woman who deserved safety, freedom, and a future. Instead, she was betrayed by the very people who should have protected her, lured from the UK to India, and murdered for the false notion of ‘honour’.
Her death was not only a profound loss but a powerful reminder of the hidden dangers many victims face behind closed doors. Yet from this tragedy emerged a landmark moment in British legal history: the successful prosecution of those responsible. This case exposed the severity of honour-based violence, challenged cultural silence, and forced the nation to confront a crime that had long been ignored.
Surjit’s legacy lives at the heart of True Honour.
Her courage and the long fight for justice that followed continue to inspire our mission to protect victims, challenge harmful practices, and ensure no one else suffers in silence.
Every life we support, every survivor we empower, and every professional we train is part of the change born from Surjit’s story. We honour her by standing with victims, amplifying their voices, and working tirelessly for a future where no life is lost in the name of so-called ‘honour’.
In 1998, Sarbjit Athwal was called to what appeared to be a routine family meeting in a quiet west London home. But behind the closed doors of that dining room, a horrific plan was being set in motion. Presiding over the gathering, the elderly family matriarch raised her hand, silencing the room before declaring chillingly:
“It’s decided. We have to get rid of her.”
“Her” was Surjit Kaur Athwal — Sarbjit’s sister-in-law.
A young mother. A woman full of hope, strength, and potential.
Within three weeks of that meeting, Surjit was lured from London to India, drugged, strangled, and her body thrown into the Ravi River, never to be found again.
A Book That Became a Lifeline for Thousands
Shamed is more than a memoir.
It is a testimony of resilience.
It is a call for justice.
And it has become a lifeline for victims who believed they had no voice.
Sarbjit’s story has inspired and empowered thousands of survivors worldwide, giving them the courage to seek help, break their silence, and step forward into safety and freedom.
In the aftermath, Sarbjit lived in fear, surrounded by silence, threats, and unimaginable pressure. Yet she refused to turn away.
In secret, and at great personal risk, she began a nine-year fight for justice, a journey that would test her courage, her safety, and her very identity.
Her decision to come forward broke new ground and marked a turning point in British legal history.
Sarbjit became the first person from within a perpetrator’s family to testify in an honour killing trial.
She became the Prosecution’s key witness.
She became the first to waive her anonymity in such a case.
And she was instrumental in securing the UK’s first honour-killing conviction without a body ever being found.
Her bravery changed not only the outcome of the trial, it changed the national conversation around honour-based violence.