Break the Silence and BE FREE!

Supporting all victims of Honour Based Violence,  
Forced Marriage and Female Genital Mutilation

Welcome to True Honour

TRUE HONOUR, established in 2015 with two clear aims – to stop abuse and save lives.  

To help and support all victims of Honour Based Violence (HBV), Forced Marriage (FM) and Female Genital Mutilation (FGM) victims of abuse.  

Our mission is to engage with Police and Agencies to gauge a better understanding of victims, to meet the needs of South Asian Communities   
by providing training and raising awareness on hidden abuse, and by supporting them in a safe and an empowering way.

Our commitment is to provide training and raise awareness to:
  • Police Forces
  • Colleges, Universities
  • Schools
  • Local Authorities
  • GP Surgeries
  • Partner Agencies
  • Communities
We will help victims to ‘break the silence’ and seek help and get Justice. 

We aim to go beyond our duty of understanding that a victim may have only ‘one chance’ to report/ask for help and we will make sure to go ‘the extra mile’ to deliver the support required.
True Honour Team

Sarbjit Kaur Athwal

Founder of the Charity True Honour  

Sarbjit was just 19 when she got married and moved into the house of her husband's very strict family, which included her mother-in-law, her husband’s brother and his wife. Their mother-in-law treated her two daughters-in-law like servants.

Her sister-in-law, Surjit, was more rebellious and, as a consequence, was regularly beaten for her disobedience. When the family found out she was having an affair, drastic actions were taken. They took her to a family wedding in India, where her mother-in-law arranged for her to be drugged, strangled and thrown into a river.

When Sarbjit found out what had happened to her sister-in-law, she was terrified and was told if she said a word, the same thing would happen to her. So she was forced into silence… But the stress nearly killed her and she was rushed into hospital. Knowing she might die, she told her parents what had happened.

Sarbjit worked with the police, finally becoming a key witness in the police investigation. Sarbjit’s mother-in-law and Surjit’s husband were arrested and sentenced to life in prison. 

Sarbjit became the first person within a family connected with an honour killing to go into open court, waiving her anonymity to break the notions of ‘shame’ that had killed her sister-in-law… And, although she has faced intimidation and threats from her community, she would not be silent.

She joined the Metropolitan Police Service in hope of helping other voiceless victims to get the chance to speak up. Her book, ‘Shamed’, which was published last year, is now an international bestseller.
The book, published in four other languages, tells the story of how Sarbjit survived living in a murderous family that almost killed her.  
Sarbjit with Boris Johnson & James Berry MP
With Boris Johnson & James Berry MP
Sarbjit with Baroness Lawrence & Clive Driscoll
With Baroness Lawrence & Clive Driscoll 


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“Sarb has exceptional knowledge of Honour Based Violence (HBV) within ethnic communities.She has been used as a subject matter expert [...]

Kevin Hurley – Police and Crime Commissioner (Nov 2014)
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"Overall Sarbjit is a great colleague to work with, who brings a lot of passion to her work.The FMU has been working with Sarbjit [...]

Chaz Akoshile - Joint Head, Forced Marriage Unit 
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Sarbjit’s book is brilliant, so good in fact that I’ve passed on not only to others within my team but to the Constabulary as well. [...]

Sue Mountstevens – Police and Crime Commissioner (Oct 2014)
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